What if the biggest thing holding back your confidence is the voice inside your own head?
In this empowering episode of Her Unshakeable Confidence, Simone and Olivia Knego explore how self-talk can either build us up or break us down. They unpack the “What-If Whisperer,” that inner critic constantly warning us we’re not enough, and share simple, realistic shifts—like naming that voice and replacing try with do—to take back control of your personal narrative. From showing up authentically (without feeling like you’re peeling off tight jeans at the end of the day) to celebrating your wins without shrinking for others, this episode helps you rewrite the script in your mind—because when your language changes, your confidence does too.
✅ Actionable Takeaways
- Name and externalize your inner critic to separate it from who you truly are
- Swap “I’ll try” for “I’ll do”—language builds belief
- Choose supportive self-talk: speak to yourself like a friend, not an enemy
- Don’t dim your light to fit others’ struggles—support without self-minimizing
- Set boundaries with that negative inner voice: you get to decide the narrative
- Teach self-respect early—kids learn confidence from how we model self-talk
📖 Chapters
00:00 – The What-If Whisperer: Our Inner Critic
03:20 – Performing vs. Living Authentically
08:44 – Shrinking Ourselves to Make Others Comfortable
12:58 – “I Failed Too!” The Tricky Art of Commiseration
18:45 – Words Matter: Language Shapes Confidence
24:05 – Treat Yourself Like Someone You Love
29:10 – Raising Kids With Self-Respect
30:41 – Final Encouragement: You Are Unshakeable
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