In this inspiring episode of Her Unshakeable Confidence, hosts Simone and Olivia Knego sit down with Kayla Fite—mindset mentor, podcast host, and creator behind Habits You Love. During their conversation, Kayla shares her transformative journey of healing, self-discovery, and embracing authenticity, all while discussing the concept of freedom from perfectionism.
This transformation came after years of chasing external validation and eventually finding freedom from the grip of perfectionism.
Letting Go of People-Pleasing
Through candid conversation, Kayla opens up about shedding perfectionism, overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, and learning to trust her own unique path. Her story is a powerful reminder that true confidence grows when we stop seeking approval and start living aligned with our purpose.
Your Permission to Change
If you’ve ever struggled with change, feared judgment, or wondered when it’s finally “okay” to put yourself first—this episode is your permission slip to embrace the freedom they found. It’s about escaping perfectionism.
🚀 Actionable Takeaways
- Authenticity over approval. Choosing to live authentically means releasing the need to fit into molds created by others. Instead, it involves trusting your own voice and letting go of the constant pursuit of perfection. Ultimately, this shift is crucial for gaining true personal freedom from the unrealistic standards set by perfectionism.
- Healing is a rebirth. Personal growth often feels like starting over. Give yourself grace to grow, even if it feels like you’re beginning again.
- Don’t fear the pivot. Sometimes, growth requires a change in direction. It’s okay to evolve your brand, shift your goals, or pursue new passions, after all, your journey is uniquely yours.
- Focus inward, not outward. Most people are absorbed in their own lives. Fear of judgment often says more about our own insecurities than reality. It’s beneficial to focus on internal freedom from perfectionism.
- Grace in growth. Just because you’re older doesn’t mean you should have it all figured out. Growth isn’t linear—and it’s never too late to heal from the chains of perfectionism.
- Creativity thrives in authenticity. When you’re true to yourself, your creativity and confidence naturally expand. This paves the way for freedom from outdated perfectionism standards.
📖 Chapters
00:00 – Meet Kayla Fite and Her Journey to Authentic Living
10:15 – Breaking Free from People-Pleasing and Perfectionism
18:40 – Healing, Grace, and Redefining Success
27:05 – Embracing Change Without Fear of Judgment
36:20 – Finding Purpose Through Authenticity
44:25 – The Best Advice: Stay True to Yourself
47:04 – Daily Affirmation & Final Reflections
👩💼 About Kayla Fite
I like to share my story of discovering authenticity because it’s not an automatic life skill you’re born with—it’s something that must be developed and practiced over time. Growing up, I wasn’t encouraged to explore what I liked or what sparked my interest. Instead, I was told what I was going to do and who I was expected to be. I was molded to fit into a box that never truly felt like mine.
As a result, I suppressed my true self for years and carried a deep sense of shame. It wasn’t until I turned 30 that I began the process of reparenting myself and shedding the negative programming that had shaped my identity. Since then, I’ve been learning how to show up authentically and vulnerably—every single day.
It’s still a practice. And for me, that includes striving for freedom from the grip of perfectionism and choosing to honor who I really am.
This generation has a massive problem with vulnerability, individuality, and authenticity. It is because of how easy and accessible it is to just copy and mimic what other people are doing, wearing, being, saying through social media. I want to encourage women to first find themselves. Then show up from that place rather than trying to be someone they aren’t. That is where true, intrinsic confidence comes from as opposed to fake confidence that isn’t sustainable. I can also share the freedom I found from perfectionism thanks to my three A’s process!
👉 Connect with Kayla Fite
TikTok: @kaylafite | @habitsyoulove
Instagram: @kaylafite | @habitsyoulove
Website: (Coming Soon!) kaylafite.com | habitsyoulove.com
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